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description: Navigating an unplanned pregnancy can be challenging. Learn how to communicate with your partner and make informed decisions about abortion.
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# My Boyfriend Wants Me to Get An Abortion
An unplanned pregnancy may shock you and your partner. Even if your boyfriend wants you to get an abortion, you have options. Remember that you make the final decision about your pregnancy.
Take time to discuss things with your partner. Here are ten tips to get an honest conversation started.
###### 1. Know that no one can force you to have an abortion.
Your boyfriend may want you to get an abortion, but the law prohibits anyone from forcing you to have one. You have the right to make a decision that’s best for your health and your future. As you discuss your options, learn [how abortion affects mental health](https://whatchoices.com/helpful-advice/i-want-an-abortion-whats-next) to decide what might be best for you.
If you feel that you are being pressured to have an abortion, call us today at [719-284-2300](tel:+17192842300) for help and support.
###### 2. Know how far along you are.
Before you and your partner make a decision, you should confirm the viability of your pregnancy and find out how far along you are. This will help you know whether you qualify for abortion pills or a surgical abortion.
How far along you are in your pregnancy can be estimated based on the last menstrual period, but an ultrasound is the most exact way to determine it.
[Contact us to see if you qualify for a free ultrasound.](https://whatchoices.com/free-ultrasound)
###### 3. Talk about the abortion pill.
Partners may be unaware of what an abortion entails, so talk about it.
With the [abortion pill](https://whatchoices.com/abortion-info), a woman intentionally takes medication to terminate her pregnancy. The process involves two medications. The first medication, mifepristone, interferes with progesterone receptors and prevents the pregnancy from developing. The second medication, misoprostol, causes the uterus to cramp and expel the pregnancy.
###### 4. Talk about a surgical abortion.
In a surgical abortion, a provider dilates a woman’s cervix before removing the pregnancy using a curette to scrape out the uterus, a suction catheter, forceps, or other instruments. The type of procedure depends on the abortion provider’s preference, how far along a woman is in her pregnancy and the state laws.
###### 5. Talk about the risks of an abortion.
Even though the choice is yours, you and your partner should openly talk about the possible [risks and side effects of abortion.](https://whatchoices.com/abortion-info)
The abortion pills can cause cramping and bleeding for up to four weeks. Complications can include prolonged bleeding, an infection, an allergic reaction, or an incomplete abortion, which could require further medical intervention.
Complications from a surgical abortion can include bleeding, infection, and pain. In some cases, the surgical abortion is incomplete, so an additional procedure is required. In rare cases, surgical abortions could perforate the uterus or surrounding organs. Multiple surgical abortions could lead to scarring within the uterus, which could cause infertility in the future.
All of the physical complications from abortion exclusively affect women; there are no physical risks to men when it comes to choosing abortion. Therefore, the decision will affect you the most. Your partner may or may not be as concerned about or understand completely, so talking about these risks is important.
###### 6. Talk about the cost of abortion.
Your boyfriend may want you to get an abortion, but does he know the cost? The abortion pill can cost between $500 to $950. Surgical abortions can cost between $500 to $1,150 in the first trimester and $570 to $2,300 in the second trimester. These costs often include fees for ultrasounds, blood tests, medications, and follow-up appointments.
Call us today at [719-284-2300](tel:+17192842300) for a [free ultrasound](https://whatchoices.com/free-ultrasound).
###### 7. Know that abortion can affect relationships.
Abortion can affect relationships, especially when the couple disagrees about their decision. Often, men and women find it difficult to clearly communicate their feelings after an abortion and may put up emotional walls. If that occurs, communication often begins to break down, and sometimes the relationship ends.
###### 8. Know that abortion can affect men, too.
Even though women make the final decision, men often do not realize that an abortion can affect them emotionally. In a recent study, men reported depression, sadness, guilt, regret, anxiety, anger, thoughts of what could have been, emptiness, and substance abuse after experiencing abortion.
###### 9. Communicate clearly.
Ask your partner why he wants you to have an abortion. Sometimes partners have hesitations about a pregnancy because of financial or physical needs. At CHOICES, we offer pregnancy resources and referrals to help you make an informed and empowered decision!
Call us today at [719-284-2300](tel:+17192842300) to learn more.
###### 10. Set boundaries.
If your boyfriend wants you to get an abortion, but you don’t want to, then you need to set clear boundaries. Tell him what behaviors and level of communication you are comfortable with. Remember that they cannot force you to make a decision that you’re uncomfortable with.
If you are being pressured to have an abortion by your partner, parents, or someone else, please visit the [Center Against Forced Abortions (CAFA)](https://thejusticefoundation.org/cafa/) to receive legal help.
### Abortion Information in Woodland Park, Colorado
Even if your partner does not offer you the support you want, know that you are not alone. At Choices, we offer you the information you need in a compassionate space so that you can make the best decision for you!
Please be aware that Choices does not provide or refer for abortion services.
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Sources:
1. Cleveland Clinic (2024). *Medical Abortion.* https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/21899-medical-abortion
2. Mayo Clinic. (2023, November 7). *Dilation and curettage (D&C).* https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/dilation-and-curettage/about/pac-20384910
3. See source #1.
4. See source #1.
5. See source #2.
6. Yvonne Butler Tobah. (2022, August 4). *Could an elective abortion increase the risk of problems in a subsequent pregnancy?* Mayo Clinic. https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/getting-pregnant/expert-answers/abortion/faq-20058551
7. As advertised by abortion providers in September 2024.
8. Support After Abortion. (2023, April). *Abortion’s Long-Term Negative Impact on Men.* https://supportafterabortion.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Support-After-Abortion-Mens-Research-White-Paper-VF2.1.pdf
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